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Saturday, November 19, 2011

Confessions of a working (outside of the home) mom.

First of all, let me say this, I get that being a mom is a job all by itself.  I have been doing it since my kids were born (obviously) and working on and off in between.  I have run my own design business in the last few years, but that was part-time at best since the economy tanked.  I have said many times that being a stay-at-home mom is a tough job that you don't get paid money for.  You definitely get payoffs, but they are not monetary.

I have gone back to full-time, outside of the home work as a police officer.  I am still responsible for my other job as well.  I am enjoying the police work tremendously.  It is satisfying and it also rewards me with a paycheck every two weeks.  I have received two so far!  Here's the thing though.  My other job has been suffering in the transition.  I have come to the realization that I am not able to do everything like I used to.  Here is a list of the areas I am deficient in at the moment...(consider this my counseling statement to myself)...

1.  My house is no longer clean.  There is dog hair and dust everywhere.  Plus?  My kids' bathroom smells like a urinal...GROSS!

2.  I no longer cook meals every night.  Kurt has definitely been picking up the slack here, but there have been many nights when I have opted to pick up KFC or Mickey D's rather than cook.

3.  I have not been on top of my kids about their homework.

4.  I go to bed nearly two hours before my kids on most nights.  I have been getting up at either 4 or 5 a.m. and by 7:30, I am toast.  I just can't keep my eyes open.  I'm in bed by 7:30 and lights out by 8:00.  Pathetic, I know.

5.  My kids have to get themselves up and ready for school in the mornings with NO ONE HOME!  I no longer cook them a hot breakfast each morning.  My poor, neglected children now eat a bowl of cereal instead of eggs.  Then they get themselves dressed, walk the dog and lock the house as they leave.

6.  I have not been taking my son to the batting cages every day.  Again, with the work schedule and the busy zone I work in, I am exhausted at the end of the day.  Jack's hitting has suffered because of this.
**Side note, I did take him this past week (I've been working on this post for 2 weeks...do you see a pattern of behavior here??) and today at his game, he hit a home run with 2 RBI's!  See?  He really needs to hit those cages so he can do well!

7.  I haven't been working out.  Or even watching what I eat.  Some days, I don't even get to eat because I am so busy, but then I make up for it when I get home...ugh!  I keep intending to start over tomorrow.  I'm definitely starting over tomorrow!

8.  I have a very short fuse these days.  In other words, I am frequently a bitch to all of the male species living in my house.  Sorry Guys!  Mommy is trying to adjust!

There you have it.  I am a slacker in the mommy department.  I am trying to improve.  One thing is certain though, I do love getting that pay check every two weeks and also, I love my job and the people I work with.  It's all exhausting, but it is still good.  I will get better at doing all of this, I promise.


Billie said...

You just hang in there sweet heart. I raised two boys alone and it gave them backbone! I remember leaving for work with them waiting for the bus. : (
My oldest son made his and his little brothers school lunch a lot too. One day I found a half a sandwich in the little ones lunch box. Guess what it was??? Captain Crunch! My 12 year old had made my 8 year old a Captain Crunch sandwich! They both grew up to be fine, independent men who know how to cook and clean and appreciate a good woman. You're doing them a service. And don't carry the guilt. You and they will adjust. You are, as always, doing a remarkable job. I admire you so much and now... even more.
All my love,

Diana Burfield (BettyShmetty) said...

Billie, my friend, you are so sweet to me. Thank you for your comment, it really does make me feel better knowing you've been there, done that and your boys not only survived, they thrived :)

You are an angel and I'm lucky to know you.

Love you sweet lady!

Shar said...

You just have to do the best you can to get through life! Check out Flylady.net. It might help you adjust to your new life. Lots of people swear by it to keep themselves organized. I use it but then I stay home so I don't really know what I am talking about! But seriously, it starts with baby steps and then you slowly work up to a routine. BTW, I'm so glad to hear from you!